Fatherhood

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last posted April 5, 2015, 1:26 p.m.

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There is a video circulating on social media of two young black kids being filmed by their father holding up their report cards littered with F's from a school in Memphis. He is showing the world the humiliating haircuts he gave them to teach them a lesson.

I have already seen this video a few times from a few different friends so didn't think it worth propagating by sharing.

I did want to just say that I think this father is extremely misguided to think that coercion via humiliation as a sound and loving parenting technique. Whether he realizes it or not, this is a form of abuse that will only have lasting negative consequences on his children.

I wonder how much time this dad has spent helping his children with school work? When is the last time he helped his sons set goals and achieve them and then express how proud he is of them? Son need to know their father both loves and is proud of them. As they get older they yearn to know they make their father proud dk far more than even how much he loves them.

This type of abuse breaks my heart and I hate to see it spread through social media as if this father is some sort of hero.

Dads: don't be lazy. Anyone can make a video. Take time instead to build up your children instead of tear them down. Please note, I don't mean their should not be punishments but they should be in private, between a parent and a child, otherwise the punishment is no longer respected and though disliked by the child, is understood as required by a loving parent who cares about them

I hope these two young lads can endure and get past this fathers abuse. I hope they don't get into drugs or gangs as a result of not feeling loved at home or having a father who they can make proud. I hope this father is embarrassed by this public humiliation of his sons rather than getting off on all the shares and likes he is receiving.