The thing about whining is that it is the start, not the end. Some people I read whine and that is the end game for attention. You know #socialmedia gurus.
The good people, the whining is the beginning of a problem which needs to be solved. They then think things through and welcome a dialogue. I like peers who are confident -- reality distortion field confident. My whining describes a bump in the road which I shall bulldoze with my abilities.